I think of the internet as a sort of support group that I can access at 11 o'clock in my pajamas, eating the last of the icecream in the house. I spent time on the internet researching infertility treatments during that stage of our life, adoption options at the next stage and now I spend time reading blogs and other stories from adoptive parents.

My husband, on the other hand, rarely seeks out support on the web. We are fortunate enough to live in a community with a fairly sizable number of Jewish adoptive families, as well as a bunch of interracial families. Over the years, my husband has tapped into these resources time and again, looking for advice on the next step in our process, or just to shmooze about life in general.

But we don't have a formal support group in our area for Jewish adoptive families. We have an informal network of parents that will confer on issues or share our experience as situations arise, and certainly share in finalizations of adoptions together, but it's a loose network of people.

If you are in a community without these resources - families who've been-there-done-that or maybe there aren't many Jewish adoptive families to guide you through life cycle events that need to be tailored to fit your situation - consider reaching out to your local Jewish Federation, or Jewish Family Services which may be able to steer you in the right direction of finding the support you need. Stars of David is a "nonprofit information and support network for Jewish and interfaith adoptive families of all sizes, ages, and origins" and is a good organization to contact to see if they have a chapter in your area or resources you can tap into.